one kind of breakup hurts the most

               

© Metro Goldwyn-Meyer Research shows that this one kind of breakup hurts the most You’ve been through breakups before and they all hurt on some level. But research shows that one kind of breakup actually hurts the most…and it involves your partner choosing to be with someone else.
According to a study conducted by Cornell University, “comparative rejection,” or the act of a partner choosing someone else over you, feels much worse than “noncomparative rejection,” in which a partner just flat out rejects you

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.Time reported that the researchers worked with 600 people in a series of experiments revolving around the two types of rejection. In the first experiment, one man was put with two women who were secretly working with the researchers. One woman was given a puzzle and told to choose a partner to help her complete it.
The woman either chose the other woman, leaving the man to feel that he had been comparatively rejected, or the woman chose to complete the puzzle herself, rejecting the man in a noncomparative manner.
In each experiment conducted, researchers found that people felt worse when they were rejected for someone else compared to being rejected with no one else involved.

According to Time, the researchers wrote, “This may be because such rejections lead to an increased sense of exclusion and decreased belonging.”

Being rejected for someone else also introduces another rival into the situation, the researchers stated, which makes the situation worse.

So if you’re looking let someone down easy, you may not want to let them know it’s because you’re interested in someone else (if, in fact, that’s the situation). You probably already suspected as much, and now there’s actual proof to back it up.